Spiritual Gems for the Soul

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When working with battered people we endeavor to speak to the whole person. We are made up of three distinct components: body, spirit, and soul and we cannot function in this present life without all three functioning simultaneously. It’s our goal to bring forth enlightened thoughts, sayings, or ponderings for everyday living which can benefit the person’s spirit, soul and body thus, starting the renewal process in the spirit of the mind. Which is the ultimate goal for our ministry.

In these posts the meaning of spiritual gems are the emotional, physical and spiritual benefits it may bring into a person’s life. In this instance they can be thoughts/ponderings and ideas that a person had not previously considered. Spiritual gems are the Words of God “My words are spirit, and they are life” John 6:63. These gems may give a person wisdom, revelational knowledge, and understanding about their everyday problems, and situations, and how to resolve the issues. Gems: are everyday sayings, and quotes from notable individuals, as well as this author’s writings.

Our mission statement highlights the Spiritual concept of Gems. The Renewal Center for Battered Women, Ministries is dedicated to serve clients by helping to remove distress of domestic violence through education, counseling, guidance, and assistance in making better life choices through biblical principles, and practical applications.

Brenda McGibboney

Spiritual Gem: Fear God!

“I, even I, am he that comforteth you: who art thou, that thou shouldest be afraid of a man that shall die…” Isaiah 51:12.

You see, it’s not the scary type of fear that the Lord desires, but a reverential fear that respects who God is: His power, authority and sovereignty. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; and the knowledge of holy is understanding”. Proverbs 9:10.

Gem: Sudden Fear.

In this economy of downscaling, cutbacks, layoffs, health problems, and the list goes on and on, we have reasons to be concerned. Someone sent me an email about downsizing and cuts in my department, sudden fear gripped me! I begin to fret over the possibility, wondering what would happen if my position was cut. Then I heard in my spirit “Fear not.” After hearing that reassuring word from the Holy Spirit, I calmed down. I was now able to get the right perspective. God the Father wants us to have a reverential fear of Him, not of man, things and situations. -Author

Spiritual Gems: Fear Not

Love and fear do not mix. God have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love and a sound mind. 2Timothy 1:7.

Don’t be afraid of sudden fear: for the Lord is your confidence. Proverbs 3:25.

In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man [woman] can do to me. Psalms 56:11

Fear not for I am with you be not dismayed for I am your God…Isaiah. 41:10

Gem: He Speaks.

God speaks on and on in 10,000 tongues He speaks. With signs and wonders, fire and thunder, He speaks. He speaks in valley deep and on the mountain peaks He speaks. He speaks through circumstances, situations, dreams, revelations, nature and various ways. He speaks to each and every one of us in the language that we can understand. He speaks non-verbal and in nuances, He speaks. -Author

You may be thinking, but how does He speak to me? He usually speaks by His written word, call the logos a Greek word. The Logos is the expressed written word of God. It’s like a logo, you can see the written word expressed in your mind, or written, or other objects of expressions. Another way He may speak specifically to you is called Rhema, another Greek word. It’s a still small voice, an inspired utterance that comes in your spirit. Usually, a warning: instructions, or direction of some sort.

Gem: Obedience

When I was a young woman, I was brutally raped at knifepoint. If the chain-linked fence wasn’t in place, it would literally have been in my backyard. When the perpetrator finished, even though dazed, and half unconscious, I heard in my spirit a still small voice ” get up and run“. I am alive today because I obeyed the voice of the Holy Spirit. Obedience to the Lord can literally save your life.

Gem: Obey

The most profound preacher of the gospel I know. often encouraged: Obey God and leave all the consequences to Him. – Charles Stanley

Spiritual Gem: It is better to obey than to sacrifice for rebellion is the sin of witchcraft. I Samuel 15:22.

Gem: If a person is unfaithful in their prior relationship with you, guess what? They will be unfaithful in their relationship with you. – Human nature.

Gem: Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Spiritual Gem: Reciprocity, mutual benefit, or exchange: give and your will receive. Luke 6:18.

Spiritual Gem: Use what you already have, and more will be given to you. Matthew 25:29.

MISSION STATEMENT

Our name Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministries may be mis-leading to some people. Therefore, we would like to clarify we are NOT a shelter.

Mission Statement

Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministries is dedicated to serve clients by helping to remove distress of domestic violence through education, counseling, guidance, and assistance in making better life choices through biblical principles and practical application.

Our Purpose

Our purpose for this organization is to help people to think seriously about domestic violence and its effect on them and their posterity. We want people to have a change of mind about living in an abusive and dysfunctional environment or relationship. We endeavor to enlighten, empower, and encourage the client. We offer: education on abuse, sexual violence, life coaching and support, workshops,  and  catharsis support group.

We sponsor an Event where we spotlight a survivor of domestic violence who is willing to tell her story of how  her life has been changed from being a victim to becoming victorious by biblical principles and practical applications.

“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” Emerson

Are You In An Abusive Situation?

In reality, there is domestic violence/ domestic abuse of some sort going on every minute of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month. Domestic violence is ongoing.

If you currently in a domestic violence situation please contact Guilford County Family Justice Center at 336 641-7233.  Or the city and county where you currently reside. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799-7233, 800 787-3224 (TTY).

“The more that we choose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.”- Russell Wilson.

On an average 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in the U.S. That is more than 12 million women and men over a year! That means domestic violence/ abuse is in your community and may be in your home. Domestic violence/abuse is ongoing: 24/7 and 365 days a year and we are here to help. Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministry, Inc. 336 988-7622.

“Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave even if you stumble a little on your way out the door.” Unknown

A few Myths and Realities of Domestic Violence

Myth:  This kind of abuse is restricted to poorly educated families from lower socio-economic backgrounds.

Reality: Abuse is found in all socio-economic backgrounds. An unusually high incidence is found among police, physicians, and men in the helping professions. Several studies show a high correlation between increased physical abuse and increased form an education among violent men.

Myth:  Intimate partners have always fought. It is natural and therefore cannot be that bad.

Reality: According to statistics the home, not the streets are the “nursery school of violence”. At least 85% of the men in prison grew up in a violent home. To eliminate violence in society, we must first eliminate violence in the home.

Myth:  A little slap never hurt anyone.

Reality:  The distinguishing feature of abuse is that is a pattern of coercive controls that may or may not include physical violence, but is characterized by its severity and intensity. It can last many years, and physical injuries can range from a black eye to broken bones. Over a third of the murders in this country occur when one family member kills another. Another result is a loss of self-esteem and reduced feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Myth:  Victims of abuse are masochistic and enjoy it. Otherwise, they would not stay.

Realty:   Victims of abuse may be reluctant to leave for a complex set of reasons including safety, shame, fear, lack of money, or concern for children. When a victim does leave, it does not guarantee that the beatings will stop. A perpetrator of abuse will often go to great lengths to trace their spouse or partner down, in order to continue the abuse. In fact, victims of abuse are more at risk for fatal injury at the hands of their abuser after they leave.

Myth:  Women batter their husbands.

Reality: Yes, women do batter. Figures indicate that there is one abused husband for every ten abused wives. The difference lies in the extent of the violence. Women receive the far greater physical injury than men do.

So, where did all this violence come from? The thumbnail version:

 “And there was war in heaven: Michael and his angels fought against the dragon [Satan]…and [they] prevailed not; neither was their place found any more in heaven…he was cast out into the earth and his angels were cast out with him.” Revelation 12:7-9 KJV Bible.

The nature of violence is well entrenched in all cultures of the world, and it has been since the beginning of time. As you can see from the above scripture, violence actually began in heaven by Lucifer. Therefore, it is not just a social phenomenatal that  presents  itself in certain social contexts, but it pervasive, demonic and spiritual in nature. It is meant to destroy people, marriages, and the family in particular.  Hence, it must be addressed by spiritual means. 

The Renewal Center for Batterer Women is dedicated to serve clients by helping to remove distress of domestic violence through education, counseling, guidance, and assistance in making better life choices through biblical principles, and practical applications.

“When it comes to abuse, you believe there’s no way out. There is always help. There is always a way out.” -Rev. Donna Mulvey

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Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministry

B.McGibboney/Founder President

Domestic Violence is Ongoing!

It seems that domestic violence/abuse is only spotlighted once a year. Yearly, attention is brought to victims of abuse and how advocates can stop domestic violence in the home, office, or other settings. Domestic violence is ongoing all over the world. During this time of COVID-19, victims are especially vulnerable, being in close quarters with their abusers for long periods of time, there, things can get a little touchy!

We may not want to think about it, or even believe it, but reality is domestic violence of some sort is going on every minute of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month all over the world.

On an average 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in the U.S. That is more than 12 million women and men over a year! That means domestic violence is in your community and may be in your home. Domestic violence/abuse is ongoing: 24/7 and 365 days a year and we are here to help.

Brenda McGibboney

“When it  comes to abuse, you believe there’s no way out.  There is always help.  There is always a way out.”  Rev. Donna Mulvey.

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A few Myths and Realities of Domestic Violence.

Myth:  This kind of abuse [physical, psychological ] is restricted to poorly educated families from lower socio-economic backgrounds.

Reality: Abuse is found in all socio-economic backgrounds. An unusually high incidence is found among police, physicians, and men in the helping professions. Several studies show a high correlation between psychological, physical abuse and increased levels of education among violent men.

Myth:  Intimate partners have always fought. It is natural and therefore cannot be that bad.

Reality: According to statistics the home, not the streets are the “nursery school of violence”. At least 85% of the men in prison grew up in a violent home. To eliminate violence in society, we must first eliminate violence in the home.

Myth:  A little slap never hurt anyone.

Reality:  The distinguishing feature of abuse is that is a pattern of coercive controls that may or may not include physical violence, but is characterized by its severity and intensity. It can last many years, and physical injuries can range from a black eye to broken bones. Over a third of the murders in this country occur when one family member kills another. Another result is a loss of self-esteem and reduced feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Myth:  Victims of abuse are masochistic and enjoy it. Otherwise, they would not stay.

Realty:   Victims of abuse may be reluctant to leave for a complex set of reasons including safety, shame, fear, lack of money, or concern for children. When a victim does leave, it does not guarantee that the beatings will stop. A perpetrator of abuse will often go to great lengths to trace their spouse or partner down, in order to continue the abuse. In fact, victims of abuse are more at risk for fatal injury at the hands of their abuser after they leave.

Myth:  Women batter their husbands.

Reality: Well, yes and no. Some, not all women batter. Figures indicate that there is one abused husband for every ten abused wives. However, this may be under-reported. The difference lies in the extent of the violence. Women receive far greater physical injury than men do.

“At any given moment you have the power to say this is not how the story is going to end.” Christine Mason Miller.

So, where did all this violence come from?  Contrary to popular belief violence didn’t start when Cain killed his brother Abel. A thumbnail version.

“And there was war in heaven: Michael and his angels fought against the dragon [Satan]…and [they] prevailed not; neither was their place found any more in heaven…he was cast out into the earth and his angels were cast out with him.” Revelation 12:7-9 KJV Bible.

The nature of violence is well entrenched in all cultures of the world, and it has been since the beginning of time. As you can see from the above scripture, violence actually began in heaven by Lucifer. Therefore, it is not just a social Problem that  presents  itself in social contexts, but pervasive, demonic and spiritual in nature, it is meant to destroy people, marriages, and the family in particular.  Hence, it must be addressed by spiritual means. 

The Renewal Center for Batterer Women is dedicated to serve clients by helping to remove distress of domestic violence through education, counseling, guidance, and assistance in making better life choices through biblical principles, and practical applications.

If you are currently in a domestic violence situation please call the Police in your area. Or contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799-7233, 800 787-3224 (TTY)

A Memorial Day Salute with a Personal Flare

“Then conquer we must when our cause it is just/And this be our motto: In God is our Trust.  And the Star-Spangled Banner in triumph shall wave/O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave.”Francis Scott Key September 14, 1814.

Our national anthem reminds us of the struggles in blood, sweat and tears that members of our families have diligently fought and died for. We would like to say thanks to all of those who have given their lives that we may be free.

Whenever I look at war movies, I can’t help but think of my father who is with the Lord now. We would sit for hours watching war movies. I would ask questions and he would answer slow and deliberate as if reliving some of the action that he had experience. One particular questions I was intrigued about was when he was in the Korean War.  He was a paratrooper or parachutist. Dad I said, how could you jump out of a plane weren’t you afraid? He would say, Dee, that was my nickname, you see, you train long and hard for those type missions. And if you didn’t jump you were pushed out.  And he would throw back his head and laugh.  I  wondered if he was serious or just teasing me.

Maybe you had times like that with your loved ones. Even though some may be gone now, but their memories live on.  Many of our fathers, grandfathers, great-grand fathers served in the Armed Forces protecting this soil we love so much and we thank them.

Let us pause… and take a moment to reflect on what would ” the land of the free and the home of the brave “ be like today if many had not given the ultimate sacrifice for it?  As we look back to the time when those lyrics were penned the nation was shrouded over in slavery, now it’s all  our national anthem. It has evolved to mean all men and women of this country to be free, but freedom comes with a price, a very high price-their lives.

We give thanks to God the Father who has permitted such brave men and women to stand up and conquer in His Name.  Let us give them the respect and honor due them on this Memorial Day.

We at Renewal Center for Battered Women Ministries salute you.

Brenda Leffall-McGibboney

Our Services

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WHAT we do: We are an after care service: after the crises, after the shelters, after relocation,  after trying to put your life back together there needs to be a  renewal/transforming, a change of  the mind.  We educate the clients/ survivors about DV through education: we endeavor to renew their minds by: being enlighten, empowered and encouraged by moral principles and practical  applications.

SERVICES:

Community Education Programs

Domestic Violence training

Domestic Violence workshops

Sexual Abuse Awareness workshops

Catharsis  support group

Referrals/Resource Information

Local shelters
Legal assistance
Mental Health assessment
Alcohol drug counseling